by: Coral Conrad

SPIRITUAL AWAKENING

REMOVING YOURSELF FROM THE INFLUENCE

This is different from setting up a scenario and then backing away from it, refusing to face your responsibilities.

A friend of mine has the terminology "I don't want to go there'. what she means is that she will not start anything or do anything with another that is not good in motive and true.

We often see people who remove themselves from daily suburban life. They are the ones who are building their strength. Perhaps they have a big challenge ahead of them. Perhaps they want to see things from a rational point of view before being opened to it through the emotions.

THE EMOTIONS

Our emotions govern our lives and our world. That is a big statement.

I believe that even the so-called rational, cool character is probably shielding from his internal emotions - actually running away from it.

I am married to a man who is always working, 7 days a week or has to surround himself with other people, crowds if possible, but no-one that he really knows. He used to be in entertainment and likes to pretend. He imitates accents brilliantly, loves to talk about a huge variety superficial subjects but will never discuss personal matters or get into that heavy stuff about the universe or how people think. He will continually tell people that he has had a very happy childhood - his family life was very unhappy, by the way. His pain is very deep and until last year did not even talk to his eldest daughter - there was always someone who he did not talk to. He still has two brothers and two sisters who he has not seen or spoken to for some 7 to 8 years. Some would say that he has been re-creating the emotional trauma that he knew as a child because it was familiar, what he knew. Our emotions can be that very destructive.

I could tell you more, maybe it will strike a chord within some of you.....he idolises his cousins in London because they are a long way from here and don't get too close, secondly they are far removed from the place where he suffered his great hurt, his parents unhappiness. He is seen as a charming man to acquaintances but becomes very short tempered, demanding or neglecting of his closest, those who are always there for him.

He had a wonderful aunt who periodiclaly took him away to her farm because she felt so sorry for him. He doesn't own a house in the city where he works but owns two farms. The old emotions of happiness that he felt with his aunt can be felt again on his properties. He, and I, work long hours to pay for and keep the farms, neither is a successful business.
Look around you. Who do you know who is not living their life to satisfy an emotional issue?

The destruction of the World Trade Centre was an emotional act, the retaliation by the USA was an emotional act, our opinions of both acts is an emotional reaction.

My brother is an NLP practitioner and hynotherapist. He works on the very first emotional experience that raised a particular issue. He clears issues very quickly because he deals with not the six hundredth time that that emotion was felt, but the very first time. To work backwards would take six hundred sessions! We are playing these emotions almost every day.

Also he does not take you back into the emotion because you lose your clarity of thought and cannot see it as an experience or a lesson.

So, from time to time, it is very important that you remove yourself from an environment of high emotion or the environment that stimulates bad memories.

The purpose? So that you can think raionally about the purpose of the experience or the good things that have about because of it etc etc...

THE GOOD THINGS - THE POLLYANNA ATTITUDE

A young couple in Tasmania once moved into an old home they'd just bought.
They had a few sticks of furniture and their clothes and wedding gifts.

One day the house burned down, leaving the shell of the house. The home was insured so before long they had a new home, complete with new furniture and clothes and their wedding photos replaced by copies provided by others.

Their home was then worth more than when they bought it. Was that a tragedy?
Sure it was hard for them for a while. Before anyone berates me because it could have been a tragedy......

Another friend and her husband, in the same busy little town, had always wanted to run a golf club. She had a furniture business and he had a workshop and together they owned their home. One day, when they were both looking toward retirement, she had a buyer for her business. something went horribly wrong and she lost the business to the buyer, he lost his workshop and they lost their home. I don't know the details because I did not dare ask but they found themselves with little or nothing. So they applied for a newly advertised job caretaking the local Golf Club, where a house was provided. They got the job and got their dream. They were working side by side doing something they loved.

Many people expend all their energy looking for someone else to blame for their situation instead of looking at the good.

I see life this way - if you fall off the chair and onto the floor then you have the opportunity to see the world from a different angle. If we are fit and healthy we can get up again, if we are crippled then it just takes a bit longer and a bit more strength. But then we are exercising our shoulder muscles and our ingenuity to get up. The fit ones have probably got bony shoulders and dull brains.